I miss you, not the ‘I haven’t seen you in a while’ kind of miss you, but the ‘I wish you were here at this very moment’ kind of miss you.
The Importance Of Trust In A Relationship
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My parakeets now have names :D
The three handsome gents: Lemon, Skylar, and Bourbon
The two beautiful ladies: Whiskey and Azure
My parents went back to Macau for my cousin’s wedding, and even though we missed them at our Thanksgiving dinner, I was able to pick them up at the airport that night. I missed them so much even though it was only several days! That night, grandma, auntie candy, and BB slept over in Chino Hills. We went shopping together the next day at JCPenny and ate at the dumpling house. Then grandma, auntie candy, and BB slept over at my house! :D auntie Hannah, Iris, and Alan came over too, and mahjong tiles went flying. Iris slept over and we watched Bones together. We also did masks together and took pictures while laughing our heads off. If only Elsie were here too <3 She still sleeps all over the place so I woke up several times throughout the night :P even though she did not remember this (and would not admit that she would say this), she dreamt out loud in the middle of the night and said “bUSteD~~~” LOL no, Iris, I was not sleeping/dreaming that. You definitely said that; I remember laughing at you :P Then we went shopping at Ontario Mills today while parents stayed home. One of my poor parakeets was sick, and she passed away today… RIP little angel :( I’m going to name the other 5 parakeets tomorrow because I’ve gotten so much closer to them when my parents were in Macau. Four of them would stand on and eat from my hand now, as long as I sing to them :) all in all, what a warm Thanksgiving weekend to make up for not having my parents be able to join us that night :) tomorrow, we’re getting dim sum, yay! :3
May you watch over him and all the lonely of this world — that we may find peace. That we may despair, but only long enough to realize that the glass is always full. That there is hope, and love, and beauty all around as well as within us. That we’ve always had everything we’ve ever needed, and that is You.
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,
Dr. Kelly Flanigan is a therapist who has seen women who needs a good man in their life time and time again. He wanted to write a letter to not only his little girl, but to every woman out there. It’s a fantastic reminder of what a man needs to be to his wife.
I am a weak, ephemeral creature made of mud and dream. But I feel all the powers of the universe whirling within me.
—Nikos Kazantzakis (via owls-love-tea)
I got to see Alejandro, Fabian, and Daniel! :3 Boyce Avenue is AMAZING live, as are Madilyn Bailey and Megan Nicole. They’re all so funny and sweet :)
Had a wonderful today with Andy :) I loved all the little talks and priceless moments ^__^ Thank you for taking me to back to our beginning, for always laughing off my careless or inconsiderate actions, for wearing that shirt, for patiently rubbing my arms while waiting in line in the cold, for introducing me to wasabi horse raddish,for insisting on giving all day, for placing your palms under my elbows for support as I held my arms up to record a song, or for offering your shoulder for me to rest my head because I am short and looking up at the stage made my neck tired, for remembering your ice cream promise, for jumping with me on the concert floor and singing with me in the car, for telling me to go to the bathroom first while you stayed in line, for talking with me about jumping all the way up to space, and (attempting on) teaching me about orbital mechanics. Everything about today means the world to me and I will always cherish our memories together :)
Moments I never want to forget:
me: “OH MY GOSH, I hope I can touch Alejandro’s hand!!”
Andy: “HAHAHAH……*derpy fangirl face* OH MY GOSH, I hope **I** can touch Alejandro’s hand!!!!”
Andy: “One of them went to Harvard Law School.”
me: “Oh yah! The best-looking one?”
Andy: “…..LOL oh oooookay”
(later at concert)
Andy: “That’s who you were talking about, right? The one who plays the drums? *points at Daniel*”
me: “Oh, no. That one *points at Fabian*”
Andy: “>o> oh I~ see…”
me: “Do you believe in soul mates?”
Andy: “Hm..I haven’t thought about it before..”
me: “Do you think that we belong together?”
Andy: “Of course! :)”
me: “Do you think that God planned for us to be together?”
Andy: “Of course! I mean… **I** didn’t do it.”
me: “LOL….well, do you think that God meant for us to stay together?”
Andy: “Of course! :D”
me: “Hahahaha then what’s so hard about answering my first question?”
*the way he looked during the finale crowd participation session; I couldn’t help but laugh really hard when I turned and saw him excitedly jumping up and down like a child, with a huge smile on his face and colorful graffiti paper falling from the ceiling
a bean: Andyy!
a bean: soooooo
a bean: this:
a bean: “”Is Halloween Horror Nights safe?
The beauty of this event is how realistic and immersive it is while you are left untouched by scareactors. Scareactors are not allowed to touch you, but they will get in your face, scream at you, and chase you with chainsaws, but they will not touch you. They may come close to you and try to startle you! The event is pretty safe in other aspects as well. Upon entry into the park, guests are required to walk through metal detectors before they’re allowed into the event.”
a bean: I can imagine the Andy reaction after reading that LOL
a bean: especially for the part “but they will get in your face, scream at you, and chase you with chainsaws”
And-Ay: i cant do it .__.
And-Ay: i cant do it
And-Ay: i’ve played resident evil 4
And-Ay: and the chainsaw guy always cuts my head off
And-Ay: when im cornered in a room
And-Ay: i cant handle!
a bean: lollll it’s not the same!
a bean: they won’t touch you xD
a bean: it’s a policy xDD
And-Ay: i cant handle!
And-Ay: the chainsaw will!
a bean: LOL
a bean: HAHAHAHA